"P.S. I Still Love You" is All About Love and Heartbreak, in the Cutest Way

Spoiler alerts for To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before: P.S. I Still Love You and its predecessor below

Netflix gave the world of rom-com lovers the perfect Valentine’s Day gift when they released To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before: P.S. I Still Love You two days before the holiday. I watched it on V-Day itself, curling up with a bag of popcorn and my laptop after waiting two agonizing days to start one of my most highly-anticipated movies of 2020.


When I say I’m a fan of the To all the Boys series, I mean that I’ve read all three books twice, watched the first movie at least three times, and spent the year and a half since its release eagerly anticipating its sequel.

If you’re not familiar with the story of To All the Boys, based on the bestselling trilogy by Jenny Han, the first movie is a delightful rom-com about a girl and a guy who decide to fake-date for two separate reasons. Along the way they, of course, fall in love, and the world fell in love with their story when the first movie released in August of 2018.

The second movie, P.S. I Still Love You, is about what happens when Lara Jean and Peter start dating for real. It introduces a love triangle, there’s plenty of shenanigans and angst, and overall it’s a really adorable YA romance novel turned movie.

Something small that I really loved about this sequel was the way it represented the magnitude of every little thing when you’re a teenager. It’s interesting to be into YA as an adult, because I can look at so many of the conflicts that are earth-shattering for the protagonists and realize — that’s not going to be a big deal in a few years.

[Being into] YA as an adult, ...I can look at so many of the conflicts that are earth-shattering for the protagonists and realize — that’s not going to be a big deal in a few years.

But I remember when I was in high school, and my friend didn’t wish me a happy birthday at breakfast the day I turned 18. I assumed it was because she had decided to hate me, and so I didn’t speak to her the whole day as a result. By that night, I was a roiling mess of emotion, convinced that this girl who’d been one of my best friends for three years was never going to speak to me again. It was heartbreaking.

With the space of several years, I can look back and laugh at my dramatic antics, but in the moment? She may as well have stabbed me in the back.

So P.S. I Still Love You does this great thing where teenagers freak out over teenage things — like the fact that Lara Jean’s boyfriend didn’t actually write the poem he read her on Valentine’s Day; or that Lara Jean didn’t ask Peter (her boyfriend) to bring the pizza for their party, and it made it look like she was out there planning parties with another guy. It’s so not actually a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but when you’re 16, well, everything is a big deal.

These small details feel incredibly real and remind me what it’s like to be a teenager, that sometimes it seems like the world is ending over the smallest things, and it takes age and time and distance to gain perspective.

On a broader note, there’s a specific theme to both movies that I think P.S. I Still Love You portrays really nicely, and that’s the importance of opening yourself up to heartbreak in order to really receive love.

One of the central conflicts of this movie is a love triangle, and one of the main reasons Lara Jean even entertains the notion of the second boy is because she’s convinced her boyfriend Peter is going to break her heart. There are things she’s not over from his past, and she can’t get out of her head long enough to trust him.

This harkens back to the first movie nicely, which has multiple scenes where Lara Jean confesses that she doesn’t want to fall in love because people can hurt her, so in this second movie we see that “after happily ever after” things aren’t always sunshine and daisies.

Relationships take hard work, the movie is telling us, and sometimes you have to trust. You have to open yourself up to heartache in order to really experience the fullness of everything that life — and love — have to offer.

If I had one critique of the adaptation itself, it would be that it felt like it was trying to cram too much into too small a space. The movie is only about an hour and 40 minutes, but there are so many storylines and threads it tries to jam into that time that there were moments when it felt like we got cheated of some quality content, especially after having read and adored the book.

Obviously ample time was given to the main conflict — Lara Jean and Peter trying to figure out how to have a relationship that’s real, not pretend — but there were side characters that I wanted to see more of (Stormy!), sister shenanigans I could watch for hours, and moments with friends I wish had lasted longer.

Many writers talk about how writing the second book is the hardest, especially in a trilogy, and in some ways I feel like P.S. I Still Love You suffers from second-book syndrome and is a weaker movie than the first. Ultimately, though, it’s a highly-enjoyable, sweet movie and a great adaptation of one of my favorite books, so I have no complaints.

If you need me anytime soon, you’ll likely find me on Netflix, watching the movie over and over on an endless loop, crying because I love it so much.

Karis Rogerson

Column by Karis Rogerson

Karis Rogerson is a mid-20s aspiring author who lives in Brooklyn and works at a cafe—so totally that person they warn you about when you declare your English major. In addition to embracing the cliched nature of her life, she spends her days reading, binge-watching cop shows (Olivia Benson is her favorite character) and fangirling about all things literary, New York and selfie-related. You can find her other writing on her website and maybe someday you’ll be able to buy her novels.

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